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Every woman knows the feeling of being overlooked or run over in a meeting.
No one likes it. Especially a female executive.
In 2014, Harvard Business Review
came out with a report that surveyed more than 7,000, including female executives at or above the vice president level. The consistent feedback was that women feel less acknowledged during meetings. Although men agreed with this opinion, they disagreed with why women didn't feel powerful.
Apparently, there is this thing called the meeting before the meeting, and women in executive positions hardly know this goes on.
In fact, men have sidebar conversations prior to a large meeting all the time. Doing this allows them to understand their peer's position as well as their perspective. It allows them to uncover anything that may not align with their objectives, or frankly uncover anything that could be said that would be embarrassing or damaging. Men know this is a political way of saving face, in addition to knowing who the internal competitors are in the office.
Men get the game in the office and play nice.
To a man in corporate America, meetings before meetings are fair and even expected in order to have career success and advancement.
Women don't realize these meetings even exist and are rarely invited.
Interestingly enough, when HBR surveyed men's comments about women in meetings, they stated:
- Women need to be concise and to the point.
- Men are generally afraid of how women will react to criticism.
- Women need to speak informally and off the cuff.
- Women are emotional and defensive when challenged.
- Women are not as confident as men.
- Women are too emotional.
On the flip side, during the same survey, the women's comments were:
- We don't get feedback when we ask for it.
- We aren't acknowledged and can't get a word in during the meeting.
- We aren't emotional; it's passion.
- We obsess over a meeting after it's been over for days.
- We are outnumbered by men at the table; therefore, we tend not to feel like we have a seat at the table.
These comments are telling. The real question is how do we as women close the perceived gap?
Watching what we say and how we say it is a good starting point. If in a power position and have something to say—speak up. Being the wallflower in a meeting is not the best plan. Being noticed for the right reasons and having quiet confidence is the best strategy. Remember, men may have expectations for how women may act before they enter a meeting. It's not personal, but one may have to overcome preconceived notions.
Try language that is firm and builds confidence such as:
"I strongly recommend . . . "
"I completely agree, and here's why . . . "
"My plan is . . . "
"The strategy is . . . "
Slight changes in communication—especially in email—will project confidence, and over time one can build political capital. Decide to bridge the gap with the other male executives in the office and try to learn their language and point of view. It's not difficult but will take some awareness and effort.
What is said—or not said—will carve perceptions that can gain a promotion or a layoff when the next recession hits.
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Elizabeth Lions is an international speaker and author on career management and leadership.
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